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Foster Care Month – Pt. 2

Date: May 19, 2015 Categories: Blog

This is part two of a two part series written by Jackie, our Americorps VISTA, in honor of National Foster Care month. Part 1 can be found HERE.

Myth #6 – Foster parents are in it for the money.

In most places, the state only provides the amount of funding needed to provide for 75-80% of a foster child’s needs. While there are foster parents who deprive children of their basic needs to pocket state funds, there are far more foster parents who use money from their own pockets to ensure that children in their care receive a full and rich childhood.

Myth #7 – Most children in foster care need to be medicated.

Historically, children in foster care have been prescribed far more mood and behavior altering medications than necessary and often without exploring non-medicinal options, such as counseling, anger management and/or Individual Education Plans (IEPs). While medication can sometimes help foster youth, they often lose health insurance in adulthood and, without coping skills to fall back on, struggle with long-term mental health issues.

Myth #8 – All children in foster care want (fill in the blank).

As with any other group of people, it is impossible to say that ALL foster children want any one thing. Some wish to return to their birth families, others would like to be adopted and still others (a minority) would like to age out of the system, but with support from their foster parents. In many cases, the children do not get what they want, regardless of their desired outcome.

Myth #9 – After adoption, it is best if foster children forget about their birth family.

When adoptive parents have this expectation, it can send a message to children that their birth family was bad and that the child is bad by association. Children generally have questions about their origins and it is healthiest for them to be able to ask those questions and not feel scared, guilty or ashamed for doing so.

Myth #10 – Foster children should be grateful to their foster parents for rescuing them.

Foster children are often angry and sad that they cannot see their birth family, attend their former school, visit their former church, play with their old friends, etc. so going into care may not feel like a rescue to them.